faq
Q Are you really qualified to perform weddings? Is this legal?
A Yes and yes. I’m legally qualified to marry people as an Ordained Clergy Person of the Church of Spiritual Humanism.
Q Wait a minute…clergy? I thought you were an atheist.
A Spiritual Humanists believe in the natural, not the supernatural. But rituals and celebrations are important to human beings. Spiritual Humanism blends rituals and traditions with a foundation of scientific inquiry.
Q So you’re one of those online ministers?
A Precisely. For more information on how and why I became a minister of the ULC, and later a Spiritual Humanist Ordained Clergy Person and a First Church of Atheism minister, visit my about me page.
Q Then maybe I should just ask a friend or family member to get ordained and marry us instead.
A Great idea! If you know someone who’s willing and able to perform your wedding, having them ordained is an option. I do offer a custom ceremony design service to couples who are planning on having a friend or family member marry them. Please contact me if this option interests you.
Q How long have you been doing this?
A I’ve been marrying couples since 2002.
Q Do you perform gay/lesbian weddings?
A Gladly! I hope that California will continue to evolve and this question will become obsolete.
Q I have this kind of weird idea for our wedding…are you willing to do something a little different?
A Absolutely. I’ve had some interesting requests. Right now the couple who had me call out one of their guests and roast him on the spot (right after their vows!) holds the record for most different. (Then again, there was the Star Trek-themed wedding where the bride promised to “Cling on” to her husband in their vows…) I love it when couples mix it up and create something that’s entirely their own.
Q We’re having a California wedding, but we’re planning it from out of town. Can you still marry us?
A I’m delighted to work with out-of-town clients via Skype/email/phone in lieu of a personal meeting. Let me know how I may best help you.
Q How much do you charge?
A Please visit my rates page for more information. Our initial consultation is free; if you decide to book with me, I take a non-refundable deposit of $100 to hold your date(s).
Q Aren’t you afraid that you’re going to hell?
A No.
